The Sex Date: Healing your Heart, Honoring Your Lover, and Having Hotter Sex

A woman once said to her husband, "When we were young, sexy, and single, I was wild, erotic, and naughty in bed. We played. We tried new things. We did it all night, but now that we're married with children, I fear being whimsical and free. For some reason, I now feel like that same behavior is whorish and dirty. I'm torn. I don't want to go back in time, but I don't want things to stay the way they are either. I want to create a new sex life with you, one devoid of all these invisible lines I'm not allowed to cross. Are you interested in going on a sex date with me?" A pilot I flew with shared a very similar approach with his wife. He said, "When we started out, we were crazy in bed, it was passionate and fun. Remember how we ordered Chinese, shared a bottle of wine and paused Netflix to be intimate? Now, we only pause Netflix for bathroom breaks. Can we have this sex date to see if we can find our way back to our passionate past?" All the sex therapists, couples counselors, and marriage retreat facilitators say, "Is all you need to do is talk about it." Sex that is. Intimacy. Passion. Connection. What revs your engine and lights your fire? Unfortunately, most couples are intimidated, uncomfortable and even ashamed when broaching the subject due to a rooted belief that its taboo and inappropriate to discuss in the first place. Couple that with a crippling fear of hurting the one we love and totally embarrassing ourselves, we waive the white flag and give up without any engagement. The Sex Date is intended to change that. This is a self-help, how-to book for those in a loving, committed, monogamous relationship, who desire deeper intimacy, greater connection, and want to fan the flames of passion with their forever lover. The evidence in this manuscript will validate where you are at, give context to how you got here, and provide a framework that leads to feeling liberated, free, and understood in your romantic relationship.