The Complete Narcissist's Guide. Mimi E. Gotist delivers a gift for our times: practical, simple guidance to help you cope with the self-loving people in your life-while nurturing your own inner narcissist. At once utterly self-absorbed, and charmingly aware of it, Gotist offers advice on: Dating: You're not looking for the person you want to marry -- you're looking for the person you want to change. Career: Don't work -- work it. Spirituality: Me Here Now. Personal Growth: You can't help anyone who won't help you.